Neuroscience & Family Karma: How does healing happen?
Okay . . . what’s the connection between neuroscience & healing family karma?
This is where the findings of science and the revelations of the sages converge. Modern researchers with the advent of brain imaging technology are using meditative imaging practices to confirm what the yogis have taught for millennia.
It’s this: your family karma isn’t something that happened once-upon-a-time. It’s happening now – even as you read these words.
Your family karma resides in your neurology.
Your neurology holds your family karma. The patterns of emotion that were swirling in your early environment continue to swirl in your neurological system.
Those patterns were laid down as neural networks as you interacted with family members – primary caregivers – who were entangled in their own conditioning.
Your caregivers – mother, father, others – were themselves raised and conditioned by people who, themselves, were entangled in conditioning. Your parents absorbed those patterns into their neurology unconsciously. And passed them on. So it goes – generation after generation.
Your caregivers – parents and others – were entangled in patterns of karma.
They never learned the spiritual practices that would:
- Re-pattern their neurology for greater resilience, love, and wisdom.
- Open their consciousness to the Wisdom Heart – a level of Being that precedes all patterns of conditioning.
They didn’t know how to heal their karma and so they lived within the parameters of their conditioning.
Their conditioned state formed the emotional climate of your childhood.
A climate that you automatically absorbed in the earliest years of your life, when your neurological system was forming and most impressionable.
You adapted, at the most basic level of neurological wiring, to the patterns of incompleteness, fragmentation, struggle, and unawareness that surrounded you.
You learned to navigate the currents of family dynamics – without even thinking about it. You reinforced, repeated, and strengthened – unconsciously – those patterns of adaption over time.
The patterns that you encoded as a child are still operative.
They reside in the primitive, non-rational structures of your neurology where they continue to scan your environment to keep you safe. They live on as what the neuroscientists call implicit memories and what the yogis call samskaras.
The primitive structures of your brain don’t think in terms of yesterday or tomorrow. Implicit memories have no expiration date. They’re always on alert asking one core question.
What is that question?
What is the question that fuels and sustains your family karma?
”Is it safe now? . . . Now? . . . Is it safe now? . . .”
This is what the deeply conditioned levels of your consciousness are constantly asking. Ad infinitum.
The implicit memories are on the alert, ready to react to anything vaguely resembling danger. Ahhh . . . but what is danger?
Danger is anything that your conditioning taught you to avoid.
Danger is anything that your parents couldn’t face; anything that triggered their reactivity. When your caregivers were reactive they’re not able to give you . . . um . . . care. And this put you in danger.
If your parents were afraid of intimacy; intimacy gets coded as dangerous.
Intimacy gets coded as something to avoid, to manage, to control. You learned – without thinking – to avoid, manage, and try to control intimacy – ideally before it fully manifested. Intimacy became the danger zone.
If you were successful – you avoided the danger zone.
You developed unconscious, automatic patterns of reactivity that allowed you to detect and avoid the danger zone.
That’s why even the whiff, the hint, the suggestion of danger is enough to wake up the implicit memory, stimulate the samskara, and ignite the reactive patterns of protection, avoidance, control.
If you grew up in an environment where, to stay safe (and be cared for), you needed to hide your needs and not express your vulnerability, then having needs and being vulnerable were coded (at a deep level of your neurology) as dangerous.
You’re karmically attuned to specific patterns of danger.
Those patterns correspond to whatever your mother, father, or caregiver couldn’t meet, accept, and integrate. When anything vaguely resembling the danger-pattern arises, the conditioning activates.
The conditioning of formative years built a neurological structure – an identity and way of relating to life – that worked when you were a child.
But, now the patterns of reactivity limit you.
They limit your love life, your money life, your creative life, your spiritual life. That’s why healing family karma is so liberating.
Untangling these karmic knots frees huge amounts of life energy and creativity.
It releases tremendous resources of love and well-being.
All the energy and consciousness that has been bound up in the conditioned patterns is liberated and available for re-patterning.
Healing family karma transforms not just your family life – it touches your whole life so you:
- Feel calm, centered and clear when interacting with challenging people.
- Stop getting stuck in emotional dramas.
- Liberate yourself from over-whelm, over-responsibility, over-sensitivity.
- Express yourself – with openness, love, and strength.
- Deepen your connection to people you care most about.
To learn more about how meditation can heal your family karma check out these three videos:
Video 1: Karma: What it isn’t. What it is. And how it really works
Video 2: Family Karma: Uncovering the sacred code
Video 3: Father & Mother Karma: Untangling the patterns to reveal the gift
Love & Shanti
E & D
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